I know bridesmaids are responsible for the bachelorette party as well as paying for their dresses, shoes, etc and wedding/shower gifts. I was under the impression that bridal showers were thrown by family members. I"m in a wedding this summer and the bridal party is being asked to pay for both parties which wouldn’t be a problem if we had the $ but majority of us are struggling financially. My main objection to being asked to cough up hundreds of dollars is that the bride and groom are paying for the wedding themselves. So it seems like both sets of parents are getting away with not paying for anything. Doesn’t seem fair to me. What do you think?