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Who’s outfits am I suppose to pay for besides my own? Flower girl, mothers, etc.?
Mississippi on Nov 19, 2010
IF you do dont buy them a gift! http://www.topweddinglinks.com/etiquette.html
This should help ya!!! Good luck
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mimegamy on Nov 19, 2010
If you can buy the BM dresses for them that is a nice gesture, but you are not out of line to expect them to buy their own either.. No, don’t buy the mothers dresses but if you buy he BM dresses you should offer to pay for flower girl, also.
hgrossma on Nov 19, 2010
No. They are supposed to pay for them themselves, but brides should take into account how much the bridesmaids make so they don’t pick out ridiculously expensive dresses for girls making minimum wage.
i know it all! on Nov 19, 2010
i think just yours. Everyone else buys their own. I’ve bought piles of bridesmaid’s dresses over the years for my wife, daughter, etc.
heller on Nov 19, 2010
depends on your situation you could pay for all of it or ask each to pay half or even have them pay for there own in that case just make sure to give them enough time so that they can save up enough money
GINGERLYN T on Nov 19, 2010
I bought my own dress and I bought my mom her dress since she lives out of state and I knew what size she wore. It was my gift to her for all the things she has done for me raising me in a good loving family.
Heather Loves Joe on Nov 19, 2010
the only dress the bride pays for is her own, unless she buys the dresses for the girls as a gift
drruth on Nov 19, 2010
You are supposed to pay for your own dress. The flower girl’s parents pay for her dress, mothers pay for their own dress, etc. So, everyone pays for their own stuff.
jamitha99 on Nov 19, 2010
Your choice, typically eberyone pays for their own outfits, keep that in mind though when picking out the dresses and such, don’t make any extravagant choices.
Lady Pisces on Nov 19, 2010
That can be a very big expense. On the norm the bridesmaids usually pay for their own dress and you may as a gift for being in your wedding supply the accessories. You can offer to pay for the flower girls dress. However just like bridesmaids the mothers pay for their own dress.
texascutie on Nov 19, 2010
Traditionally the Bride pays for her dress. The Bridesmaids pay for their own atire (remember that when selecting a dres for the bridesmaids) The Groom pays for his tux (or try Al’s formalwear the Groom rents free) and the groomsmen are expected to pay for their tux rentals. Flower girls, ring bearers and parents are all expected to pay for their own atire for the wedding day.
future mrs. silac on Nov 19, 2010
UNLESS they want to keep them, I told my BM I would buy their dresses, but that I own them. After the wedding is over I plan to sell them with all their accessories on Ebay.
Zachary'smommy on Nov 19, 2010
your not responsible for anyone but yourself.
the bridal party is responsible for their attire and travel.
September77 on Nov 19, 2010
Typically, the MOH and Bmaids pay for their own dresses and shoes. I know a lot of brides will give them their day of jewelry as part of their gift. The mothers usually always pay for their own outfit and the parents of the flower girls and ring bearers usually pay for them as well. If you have the extra money and can chip in towards the dresses and whatever else, I’m sure they would appreciate it but I don’t think it’s at all expected. I split the cost of the flower girl dresses with my two sisters because they were already paying for their dresses and shoes, the ring bearers tuxes and the groomsmen tuxes (both of their sons and husbands were in our wedding as well).
monalisa on Nov 19, 2010
It depends on you.Have you chosen bridesmaids who can manage to buy outfits for themselves? When you are planning ,you ought to know who is going to be on the line up because some of those choosen won’t be able to afford to pay for the outfit and some may.Or if you want ,just pay for them and that’s if you can afford.
bb on Nov 19, 2010
bridesmaid, flower girl and pageboy but if they want to keep the dress then they should pay .
Valerie S on Nov 19, 2010
You’re not "supposed" to pay for anyones dresses. Each wedding I’ve been in, besides when my brother got married, I’ve paid for my dress, and the bride typically bought the jewelry go to along with it.
Kat on Nov 19, 2010
You are not required to pay for any outfits except for your own…and possibly the outfits of your children, if you have kids of your own that will be in the wedding.
If you have the financial means to pay for your bridesmaids’ dresses, It will absolutely be much appreciated. Or, if you can pay for their shoes and purses, or some other accessory as a bridesmaid’s gift, that will be a good thing. If not, it is ok. You are not required to pay for any of the bridal party’s attire. When a bridesmaid accepts the job, it is with the knowledge that they will have to pay for the gowns.
magnadudl on Nov 19, 2010
You are only supposed to pay for your dress. Some couples pay for the groomsmen’s tux rentals, but that’s entirely up to you.
sparkleythings_4you on Nov 19, 2010
This depends where you live, in the US it seems the maids pay for their own dresses and everything to do with their part in the wedding, and in the UK the bride pays (or whoever is paying for the wedding).. I paid for my bridesmaids dress, shoes, jewellery, hair appointments etc, she is doing me a favour after all, not the other way round, so I don’t see why it should cost her money to do me a favour.
erin b on Nov 19, 2010
you can buy them as their gifts, or they can pay for them as their gift to you. i was lucky, when i got married my father gave me a book of blank checks, so i paid for everything. if only i had saved one of those checks to pay for my divorce that happened 5yrs later!
Buttafli on Nov 19, 2010
They should buy their own…
kateqd30 on Nov 19, 2010
You are not responsible for paying for any dresses but your own. When your girls accept the invitation to be a bridesmaid they accept all finacial responsibilities that go along with it, this includes their attire, lodging, travel, bridal shower, etc, expenses. I would recommend you speak with each girl privately and see what her budget is, if you ask when they are all together they may be ambarrassed to confess in front of others that they cant afford too much. After you get their answers choose a dress accordingly.
Mandy S on Nov 19, 2010
Typically, the wedding party pays for their own dresses/tuxes.
However, if you have someone you want to be in your wedding party who would not be able to cover the cost of the dress/tux, or if you just really want to be generous, you can pay for the outfits.
It’s also a nice thing to do (not required, but definately nice) to keep the dresses or tuxes and all other "required" purchases within a reasonable price range. Choosing dresses, jewelry, hairdo’s, makeup, manicures, pedicures, shoes, and any other accessories should be reasonable — the wedding party members should not have to choose between being your bridesmaid or paying rent.
I think it’s reasonable for you to help out at your own discretion. My best friend got married and there was no way I would have been able to even travel there, not to mention pay for a bridesmaids dress and shoes. She was able to, so she paid for my travel expenses (well, not exactly — her fiancee had tons of frequent flyer miles) and half of the cost of the dress. The other girls had no difficulty getting the money to be there. I had already told her that I was afraid I just wouldn’t be able to be there for financial reasons. She never told the other girls about covering part of the cost, because she wanted me to be able to be there.
Elle on Nov 19, 2010
I am a professional wedding planner and this falls under the category "who pays for what?" The bride is not obligated to pay for the dresses. Usually the bridesmaids pay for their own.
Terri on Nov 19, 2010
You are only supposed to pay for your own and then the grooms outfit.
BUT, if you have enough money to do so, you can pay for any of the outfits you want to.
bride to be on Nov 19, 2010
I paid for my BM dresses.
it’s up to you, if you can afford it, it’s nice because they are in your wedding, it is for you, not them.
if not, they can buy them but don’t pick out a $200.00 dress and expect everyone to be ok with it.
beth v on Nov 19, 2010
depends on your budget that you have set for the overall wedding cost. Also take into account on how many girls are going to be in the wedding.
For my wedding, I paid for the girls dresses and shoes. My fiance had made the decision that he wanted us to pay for the dresses and the guy’s attire as well.
If you choose to pay for them, be a smart shopper. Try to find places that might be having a sale on dresses. Depending on when your wedding is, alot of stores after clearances after school major dances.
CindyLu on Nov 19, 2010
Everyone pays for their own outfits. The flower girls and ring bearer’s parents are supposed to buy their outfits and the brides maids are supposed to buy their outfits. The mothers are supposed to wear a color that complements the wedding party and each other but they too buy their own dresses. All the ushers/grooms men buy/rent their own tuxedo.
Nicole R on Nov 19, 2010
Just yours, they pay for their own
VAWeddingSpecialist on Nov 19, 2010
You shouldn’t have to worry about anyone’s clothing – other than yours and possibly your fiance’s. Once someone agrees to be in your bridal party, they accept the responsibility of paying for their own attire, shoes, etc. If the dresses you want for your bridal party are a little out of their price range, then you can purchase them as gifts, or subsidize other costs – like manicures, hair and/or make-up – as gifts as well.
CBT Princess on Nov 19, 2010
They pay for their own attire – all of them
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