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We are getting engaged sometime in the next few months and have discussed having a Feburary 2009 wedding. We’ve even talked about the financial aspect of it -namely the reception halls. I had plans of going to the expo with or without him and decided to ask him to attend since we had been discussing it recently.

Today he was on the phone with his mom and told her that we were going to this bridal show on Sunday and I could just tell by his responses to her that she was HATING big time on him going…Why do some MIL’s do that?? He really didn’t seem to care about going – he knows he’ll probably be one of the few guys there, but his mom has filled him with this negativity.

I just moved to New York and the rest of my family is in Minnesota. My mom and my aunt will not host the shower for me. Where should I have it? Any ideas I should look into?
Oops I mean bridal shower

Hi. I’m a 13-year-old boy. My mom is getting married in 2 days on Saturday, July 18. I am the best man, and need to think of a short toast to say. Can you guys come up with anything or at least any ideas? Thanks.

My best friend is getting married this Saturday. Throughout the planning process I have spent a lot of money, I added it up to about 0 that I don’t have. I am still in debt from borrowing from my mom for dress alterations, the dress itself and the I needed for even attending the Bachelorette party, not to mention gifts and buying drinks for the bride. My balance is .33 in my checking account. I am a substitute teacher so I don’t have consistent income. I can pay my bills…but anything more than that is incredibly tight. I got her a decor sign that says "Always Kiss Me Goodnight" to give to her on her wedding day and was planning on borrowing more money to give 0, because that is the standard wedding gift. A few people have told me that being in the wedding IS the gift for her but I feel I need to give her that money if not more because she is my best friend.

What is the standard type of gift for a Maid of Honor to give to the Bride? Do the bridal party give money or is the money the bridal party spent on the dresses, etc considered the gift? Please help!

HELP ME!! My Aunt and my Grandmother are trying to take over my wedding!

To start things off, my Aunt weaseled her way into dress shopping with my mom and I. Then, she got bored and sick of shopping so she just went ahead and paid for the last dress that I was wearing and the headpiece! Luckily, it was THE dress. The headpiece I am not so sure about. But silly me, I thought by her paying for it, it was a gift (considering it was 0!). About 4 days later, she reposessed my dress because I hadn’t paid her back for it yet! [I did finally get my wedding dress back.]

Also, she went behind my back and set up a dinner party that includes my aunt, her husband, my grandmother and grandfather, my mom, my in-laws, myself and my fiance, to discuss the finances! The wedding is being covered by my mother, my fiance and myself, and no one else! I’m quite concerned about this dinner, because my grandmother has never met my in laws, but she seems to hate them already and is very ignorant and rude whenever she speaks about them. My aunt has met them before, and she has always been rude to them! Also, my brother told me he overheard them saying that they’re going to "turn up the heat" on us, and that we’re "are going to get what’s coming to [us]." We haven’t done anything to them, we just wan’t to plan our own wedding!

Also, my grandmother wants to make my wedding cake, but she’s 75 years old and can’t make them like she used to, and also she refuses to make a layered cake for me, she wants to have the layers on seperate pedistals, which I hate! When I said I would just buy a cake she freaked out and started screaming at me about it!

On top of it all, I get at least 10 or more phone calls PER DAY from these women screaming at me about Invitations, the Cake, Showers, Gift Registries, Engagement Photos, Wedding Photos, etc. Every single detail they are trying to control!

My Aunt wanted to do my Engagement photos and my Wedding photos, which is fine, but my soon to be sister in law and her husband also wanted to do a set of Engagement photos, seeing as how they actually know me and my fiance and our taste as we hang out a lot, and my aunt doesn’t! I barely know her and I try to spend as little time as possible with her due to her overwhelmingly strong personality. My aunt completely freaked out about the second set of engagement photos and yelled at me about it! She said she wouldn’t do the engagement photos if they were going to take any pictures of us, and that if she saw them bring out a camera at my wedding she would put hers away! I don’t understand why nobody but her is allowed to take pictures of my wedding, and I don’t know how to talk to her without her shouting me down. The same goes for my grandmother.

So, PLEASE! How do I politely, or even just effectively tell my overbearing family that this is MY wedding, that I am going to have things MY way, and that they need to mind their own business?
I can’t deal with them anymore. Any suggestions would be helpful at this point!

[Just to clear up the Engagement Photo thing - I wanted to have 2 sets of Engagement photos, so I would have a variety to choose from, dressed up and traditional, and dressed down, young, and fun, in the woods, riding 4 wheelers, going fishing, skeet shooting, by a waterfall.. all sorts of out doorsy stuff that we LOVE... I don't see how that is a problem.. do any of you??]

Thanks in advance
- Frusterated Bride to Be!
My aunt is a professional photographer, as are my sister-in-law to be and her husband.

Thanks all, I appreciate your input!
Also, we are working on a very tight budget, which is why they offered to do it for free.

& I tried explaining to my grandmother that I didnt want her to be too exhausted to enjoy the wedding and she went off her nut anyways. So I’m not exactly sure how to approach that one without her saying she’s dying and the last thing she wanted to do was to make me my wedding cake! (She’s like that.)

But thank you very much for the input! <3

I tried googling this but couldn’t find much about it. Does anyone know if the groom’s mother can accompany me in picking out a wedding gown and bridesmaid dresses? My mom and sister are going and i’m also close with his parents so i wanted to ask her. i’m just not sure about the etiquette on this one. Thanks everyone =]
Thanks so much for all of the quick responses!! =] I’ll call her. I really appreciate it!!

Ok so im not sure if im just being crazy or a jealous person…My husband and I have been together for 2 years now. We have an amazing relationship, but there is one problem…his sister who is 24 years old. When we were planning our wedding she asked me ONE time how the wedding plans were going out of the six months of planning. Also, she txt my husband, her brother, and told him how pissed she was that she wasn’t in the wedding. (we had a small wedding my BFF and my sister where the only ones i asked to be maides of honor) It was nothing against her and i told her that we were just trying to keep it as small as possible. I didnt even ask my four other BFF from high school to be brides maides or anything. So, we talked and everything was fine, so i thought. Then she tells her parents and my husband this "I dont even want to go to their f**king wedding if Dan (her bf that stole from my stepbrother and stole money out of my friends house) cant come" So, she ended up coming without Dan to the wedding. At my bridal shower she told me that she was going to give me a used college book i needed for school as my gift. I thought that was really crappy bc she was doing it to be mean. Because once again she wanted Dan to come to the bridal shower ever though it was ONLY GIRLS. So now moving on to why i believe she has some weirdness about her brother, my husband. Whenever we are around her she will hug him A LOT…not just a hug like oh yay im so happy to see you, more like a holding you tightly hug. She will kiss him on his head and cheek, play with his hair, rub his chest, talk about sexual things with her boyfriend to him and her dad! One time we were at the mall and my husband tried on a jacket and she went behind him, put her hands in the jacket pockets and started rubbing his chest. At my bridal shower my mom just told me that she was hugging my husband and she was looking around to see if i was looking at them. My mom said my back was turned to them so she let go. NOTE: my mom knew nothing of me thinking that she had a thing for her brother. My mom just thought it was very strange. I told her that i was thinking the samething about her and it even makes my suspicion more true, i believe. She will also wear booty shorts and will try wrestling with my husband, which maybe thats normal i only had a sister so i dont know how weird that is. Ok, only 2 more things that really stick out in my mine…I went on a family vacation with my husbands family. My husband and I were kissing bc we are in love, and she would try and push us apart and tell us how gross it was, yet she will talk about sexual stuff with her bfs?? And when we picked her up from the airport my husband went to help her with her bags and she jumped on him, gave him a front way hug and wrapped her legs around him!! Oh last thing, promise! When we were planning the wedding she said she felt like she was losing her brother and how close they use to be and she didnt understand why just them two couldnt hang out without me?? My husband told me that they never were even close and he doesnt know why she was saying that. Is all this weird? I dont know what to do i need some advice please
P.s. The sister in law also asked me how big her brothers penis was!? Now I think that is REALLY SICK

Well my daughter (who will be 2 the day after the wedding), is going to be the flower girl for my friend’s wedding (I’m the maid of honor =D) anyway, we bought her shoes & they are so adorable (mini versions of mine). They are the clear plastic kind with silver leafy designs on it w/rhinestones. Well the left one fits her perfectly, but the right one I couldn’t get past getting her toes in them… I was like "I know this foot cant be fatter than the other one" so I got to looking at the shoes & the toe of that one is way small… like a manufactures defect… Ok heres my question: My mom said that it will stretch out by then if I work with it alot between now and then, like you know kinda gently pull on it or whatever… Do you think that it will stretch out?? Oh and the dress store where we bought if from doesn’t do refunds, or exchanges… so that will really suck if they dont stretch… =(

a friend of mine asked me to be her maid of honor.
i know that the maid of honor is basically supposed to do alot of the planning of the wedding plus the bridal shower/bacherlorette party.
i was thinking of taking pictures of all the steps leading up to the big day (her mom making the dresses, the fittings, making invites, the parties, etc) and include some pictures of the wedding at the very end and giving it to the couple as a wedding gift.

does anyone have anymore ideas?
and maybe so links to come cute scrapbooks?

Hello,
I am making my wedding programs & I keep getting confused on who I should list & in what order?
My programs are only going to be half a sheet of paper, so I need to try & keep it simple, but I don’t want to leave anything out either…
I know you are supposed to list the parents/grandparents in like the order they walk down (which I have no idea what order they will be in yet) my parents may not even be there, only one gma will be there, and my soon to be husband’s mom & stepdad, dad & stepmom will be there. Also, should I list how we know the wedding party? (i.e. Bridesmaid…Sister of Groom) or should I just list their names?
Is it optional to not even list parents/grandparents… because I’m not sure who is all going to be attending & which order they will walk down… or is that disrespectful?
Any opinions???

My mom is throwing a shower for me and my fiance and we are having a couple’s shower. It is going to be a luau themed/cookout couple shower. She was wondering what kind of cake would go with this. Do you have any suggestions? What is a good bridal shower cake? Should she go with something luau themed, or bridal shower themed or a simple cake with a photo of both of us on it?

both mine and my fiance’s parents are hosting. his parents are divorces and his mom is a pastor. would this work?

Mr. & Mrs. John Doe Smith
and
Mr. Joe P. Johnson & Rev. Macy Ginger
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Jane Marie Smith
and
Thomas Allan Johnson
Saturday, the eleventh of December
Two thousand and ten
at two o’clock in the afternoon
Peachtree Presbyterian Church
3434 Roswell Road
Atlanta, Georgia

My mom is getting married and I am her maid of honor. I want to get her something really special for her bridal shower, which is also the same day as her birthday. And I was wondering if anyone had any good ideas? Oh and I am 15. Thanks!!

my older sister is getting married next month. She has been planning this wedding forever. And now she is finally able to make it come true. She is 29 and is marrying her best friend, Jake. They’ve known each other since the second grade. She was telling me of what she had planned for the wedding. Her bridesmaid dresses are gonna be pale pink and her maid of honor’s dress is gonna be light pink with white glazed over it. Her wedding dress is gonna be from the Vera Wang collection. Her bouquet is made up of pink and white roses. The church pews are gonna be covered with pink and white orchids…She is so lucky, and I couldn’t be any happier. They are having a signing guest thingy kind of book where everyone in the wedding has an option to sign the book or not. I was wondering what I should put? She’s kind of like my second mother and has helped through out everything so any ideas of what to write down? And I also have to make a speech? I don’t really know what to say.. BTW I’m 22
and also..she’s dreamed of marrying Jake since she was in the fifth grade…and now, they’re finally together. I just don’t know what to say in the book and in the speech. Please help me?
and when i say second mother i really mean it…..our mom died when i was 3 and she was 10

My mom is geting married soon and she needs a song for the bridal party to walk down on…. she wants ava maria but we want a variety to work with…… shes african american and hes italian … so somewhere in that type of music would be lovely

~ THank You~

My wedding was for august 30th in nyc which is really hot days but I had to change the date to april 18th 2009 which is more of a comfortable around 60 degrees. This is the bridesmaids dresses

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_detail.jsp?stid=1552&prodgroup=110

and this is my dress

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=2660&prodgroup=10

My mom is a seamstress and she’s doing me and my flower girl (who’s wearing the same exact dress as me http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_detail.jsp?stid=3904&prodgroup=11 a champagne satin jacket but i’m not sure if i should get the bridesmaids dresses a wrap like this

http://cgi.ebay.com/Davids-Bridal-WINE-Red-Purple-Burgundy-Shawl-Dress-WRAP_W0QQitemZ290267339067QQcmdZViewItem?hash=item290267339067&_trkparms=72%3A1205|39%3A1|66%3A2|65%3A12|240%3A1318&_trksid=p3286.c0.m14

or the jacket like this one

http://www.davidsbridal.com/accessory_detail.jsp?stid=2155&prodgroup=182

because i’m the one who’s paying for this paying for the jacket will come out pretty expensive for 6 bridesmaids at a piece plus i worry that the day will be really nice and they will only use the jacket for a few minutes or not wear it at all. One of my bridesmaids told me that she would like the shawl better Plus my mom could do it for alot cheaper. But i’m not sure i feel like the jacket it’s alot more elegant.
thanks in advance.

Me and my mom are wondering thats all!!! First one to get it right gets 5 stars and 10 points!

Here is my situation:
I don’t even know my biological dad and I am also not very fond of my step dad. I love my mom to death so I would want her to be included on my invitations. My fiance has wonderful parents so there is no problem there so does anyone have any suggestions?

I have three dresses to choose from, my mom says she can get someone to dj for free,my father-n-law is getting the drinks,my fiance’ saw a tux he likes…can anyone gives me tips on keeping organized for this wedding!?!?!!! My date is on June 15th,2007.
I AM IN DESPERATE NEED!!!!!

We got married at a friend’s house in Jan 2005, had 1 child already, and didn’t tell family/most friends because we planned on having a church wedding/reception that Summer. Plans changed, never did, and now it’s way later, another child just born, and I told my Mom we were married.

My question revolves around if we can still have a ceremony in the church and a reception afterwards, and if so, should we tell people who don’t know that we’re already legally married? Or should we do it as a "renewal of vows" (but then we can’t have the bridal party which I really want!) I don’t even care about gifts; I just want a chance to have my wedding and celebrate with family/friends.

Anyone been here or have ideas?!

Im in a wedding. The grooms brother is the best man and I’m a groomsman. Do I need to toast at rehearsal dinner? Besides his brother, I’ve known him the longest, the rest of the groomsmen aren’t far off though. I was wondering because I have an extremely hard time speaking in front of people. Should I worry that his mom might ask me too or even worse ask in front of everyone?

my sister is getting married in august, and her wedding colors are dark purple, black and silver.

she told me she bought dark purple shoes to wear with her white wedding dress (the dress has no purple in it)
its not something i would have done, but im fine with it. i figure its her wedding, i dont have to wear them so what do i care?, but my mom on the other hand thinks its going to look stupid and people will look at her feet rather than her face. and cant believe my sister has chosen to wear purple shoes with her wedding dress. she htinks its really tacky.
what do you all think?
do you htink it will look tacky or just different?

My friend’s wedding has just been moved up to next month on short notice. I am her maid of honor, and have no idea what to do. I am an 18 yr old college student, and although I’d love to throw her a big party and buy her gifts, I can’t afford it. I spoke to her mother and she thinks that because the wedding is a month from now, there simply isn’t enough time to plan a shower and invite everyone – we are too busy with other things now. I just feel bad not throwing her a party, but her mom and I did discuss throwing both of them a party after the wedding to celebrate their marriage. Is this acceptable to replace a shower, or would you be disappointed if you were the bride?

Ok this isn’t technically about scrap booking, but I thought the scrapbookers would know the answers to this question.

I’m wanting to get a photo book from shutterfly for my upcoming wedding guest book. We want to do a title page with our pic and such & then leave the rest of the pages blank, but we wanted to use black paper.

I’ve never bought any kind of photo book before so I don’t have a clue about what kind of paper to expect.

So we want to do a photobook with black pages & use those metallic white, silver & pink pens for our guests to write their happy wishes to us. My mom & sisters are saying that those metallic pens will bleed through to the other pages. They are telling me I should just buy a scrapbook & scrapbook black paper & use those pens on the scrapbook instead of doing the photobook.

Does anyone have any advice on this? I really don’t know what to do I’m confused, lol. But whatever I do i need to do it ASAP, I’m getting married in one month!!

HELP!!!!

I’m going to the bridal show with my mom, MOH, and fiance this weekend, there will be hundreds and hundreds of vendors and we just started planning so have nothing set in stone yet. What is the best strategy to take when going there to get the most done in one day?