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Who do the bride and groom give gifts to?

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I know that we give gifts to the bridal party and groomsmen at the rehersal dinner, but what else are we supposed to do? Do we give a gift to the pastor whose marrying us? Our parents? The people who are singing at the wedding? If so, what do we give? Help!!

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  1. Sharon F on Oct 25, 2009

    Traditional a gift is given to the bridemaids, groomsmen, flower girl, ring bearer, and parents if you like. A monetary gift can be given to the pastor.

    If you are paying a singer or instrumentalist, then no additional gifts are needed. You’re paying for a service, and you have a contract with this person.

    At the reception, it’s customary to tip the maitr’de, bartender, coat check person, and possibly the chef if he/she did something over and above for you.

    All the best to you!

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  2. ilovenerd2003 on Oct 25, 2009

    I think presents to your parents would be nice.

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  3. <3StephySue<3 on Oct 25, 2009

    Im gettin married in 2yrs & im givin presents to…

    the brides maids & page boys, best man, 2ushers, my parents, his parents & thats it

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  4. Kat on Oct 25, 2009

    I think it’s traditional for the couple to give a gift to their parent’s but it doesn’t have to be extravagant. Something that marks the occassion such as embroidered handkerchiefs for the moms and an engraved money clip or other item for the dads.

    I think as far as the pastor and whoever sings for your wedding it depends on if you know them well or not… if you don’t know them particularly well then paying them their required fee with a tip of whatever amount you can afford is all that is needed, but if it is someone that your family knows well then I think payment plus a small personal gift such as a gift certificate for a dinner out or an engraved gift such as mentioned above would be a lovely gesture. The same is true of your other vendors if they also happen to be close personal friends of the family because often they have discounted their fees because of your friendship so a small token of appreciation is important, no matter how small.

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  5. copswife134 on Oct 25, 2009

    Bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, ring bearer, and the parents.

    I gave my bridesmaids jewelry. The groomsmen were given beer mugs with their names on it. I gave my aunt and uncle (who acted as my parents) both books. The flower girl also was given jewelry. The ring bearer got a spiderman toy! My father in law was given a bottle of wine. The mother in law didn’t attend, so she got nothing!

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  6. Denise W on Oct 25, 2009

    I think it is tradition to give the bridal party gifts and the parents. I got married back in March and we only gave gifts to the bridal party.

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  7. cacica51 on Oct 25, 2009

    Bridal party, parents and each other.

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  8. bunny girl on Oct 25, 2009

    the pastor we gave money to
    and the girl that was singing we gave her a dinner for two gift card out parents we gave nonthing to
    hope this helps you

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  9. sparkleythings_4you on Oct 25, 2009

    We gave presents to the bridesmaid and best man, and my parents and his mother, and also his sister and her husband as we used their house for the reception. We wrote thank you cards to the florist and the registrars as we paid our fees and we paid for the flowers, and to be honest although my flowers were stunning they were not as I had ordered.

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