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Why do men have bachelor parties with strippers before getting married?

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If marriage is all about love and being faithful, then why does a man have a bachelor party and play with whores right before making the commitment to one woman? Does such a man truly love his future wife?

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  1. Iris R on Jul 03, 2009

    I find bachelor parties a very tacky tradition to which many men feel them self pressured into. The same goes for the bachelorette parties who simply seem to be a revenge for the men doing the stripper thing. Any man who things he is missing out on something because he is getting married should stop and not get married till he gets over it.

    Other countries don’t have this tradition and respect marriage. Perhaps that is why the divorce rate is so high here in the USA.

    In some countries there is one party for the couple. At the end the guests trash the place. They bring old bricks, dishes etc. and break them in front the couples place for good luck. It is suppose to signify the first job the couple does together. They call is Polter Abend.

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  2. Me Again! Valerie X on Jul 03, 2009

    Because some men are retards……..women aren’t any better, I have been to enough bachelorette parties to know that for a FACT!

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  3. elvlayarvvi on Jul 03, 2009

    all I know is my man didn’t do such a thing, and if he had, I would not have married him, and that’s the truth…!

    those that do, don’t love their soon to be wife… in my opinion…

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  4. sadfafghd on Jul 03, 2009

    yes he loves his wife but this is the last time he can do anything before the commitment

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  5. Lunaeclipz on Jul 03, 2009

    You must be young

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  6. DOLPHIN on Jul 03, 2009

    No, if he can justify that, then he truly doesn’t love his future wife. If he truly loved her he would want to be only with her, and only see her body, not every other girls the night before the wedding. That’s a divorce in the making.

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  7. NIKKI on Jul 03, 2009

    The same reasons that women do……one last night of freedom!!!! LOL

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  8. nonameblonde on Jul 03, 2009

    For some reason they have these parties as sewing their last oats or something? They’re of the mentality that they will ever get another woman now that they are marrying this person. As if their future wife isn’t enough or won’t be enough. I’ve been to bachelorette parties too with the same mentality. Men think women don’t act like that but they’d be surprised and the male strippers can be just as bad.

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  9. Jengi on Jul 03, 2009

    Damn good question…interesting to see the answers on this one!
    I’m guessing its the man last chance to see other woman that close and personal naked.

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  10. sweetness on Jul 03, 2009

    I think because most men are no good to begin with and they want one last shot of the single life and….they just want their cake and eat it too. Usually they end up cheating later.

    Once you propose to your soon to be wife…you are committed..just not legally so you are obligated to respect the soon to be wife and be faithful. I agree 100% with Mello Yellow. You can love someone and still cheat. Why do you think some people beg for forgiveness? Love is one reason.

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  11. larrydaffern on Jul 03, 2009

    Because it has become a tradition that has been going on a long time. It is to give him once last time to look at another woman this way before he commits to never looking at another woman besides you. If it makes you very uncomfortable, tell him you understand the tradition but it makes you uncomfortable and that it will remain in your memory continuing to bother you for a long time.

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  12. DearAbby on Jul 03, 2009

    Sure he does. Why would frivolity like that mean a man doesn’t love his wife?

    Bachelor parties are more for a guys mates than they are for him. It’s an excuse for his mates to get together and play bad boy and look at bare breasts and stuff. It’s a rite of passage kind of thing. Don’t worry about it.

    Most guys I know would pay money to AVOID screwing a prostitutute. You couldn’t pay me $100 bucks to sleep with one. Don’t worry about it.

    I agree it’s silly. It’s frivolous and it’s incongruent. But hey, a lot of things in life fit those descriptions.

    BTW, marriage isn’t about love and being faithful. Marriage is so much more. Marriage is about work. It’s about giving of yourself to the other person. Love and fidelity are such a small slice of what marriage is all about. Marriage can be about frivolity and incongruity and silliness. Marriage is also all about overlooking stupid things that don’t look right.

    If you don’t trust him, don’t marry him. Stop fretting about this crap.

    Good luck.

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  13. angel_eyes on Jul 03, 2009

    It’s not just before their own wedding, but also all their friends’ weddings…that means regardless if they are married or not, they go many, many times…

    It is never truly "the last night of fun"…just a lame excuse…if you’ve never gone to a strip club, you should go at least once to see the trash in there…lol, seriously…I heard a guy once say "I spent over $600 in one night at the strip club"…that’s the type of guy the strippers want in there are those idiots who can’t control their money…

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  14. whyteangel11 on Jul 03, 2009

    Any man that can do this in front of the Bride’s family and friends is not a man that should get married. It is ok to have a bachelor party if no sex is involved. Hopefully you know your man well enough to know what he will do.

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  15. Rob on Jul 03, 2009

    you ladies still don’t get it…….. We can do that cause we are dogs deep down inside, and we only pretend to want to get married….. funny how even as you girls read this you will refuse to belevie me and say "my husband dosen’t do that", yet it’s because you think that way, is what makes it so easy to do…

    So yes "I Love my wife" and i can’t wait to get married.

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  16. Julia on Jul 03, 2009


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  17. CorpCityGrl on Jul 03, 2009

    Because it’s a tradition that they perpetuate. For many men, they see it as their "last night of freedom" and as an excuse to go see strippers. For some women it’s okay, but for others it’s not.

    My husband had a stripper at his bachelor party, which he had specifically told his friends he did not want more than once. They didn’t listen to him and he walked out of his own party. So, not every guy wants one!

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  18. sweetpea5499 on Jul 03, 2009

    Its funny because men say its their last night of freedom and their last night being single… when really… they have been with their fiance for quite a while I’m sure so… in no way were they single or were "free" so-to-speek! If I ever get engaged… which I havn’t decided if thats in my future or not… I will not put up with that behavor. I don’t believe that strip clubs are for someone(both men and woman) with a significant other, whether its a girlfriend/boyfriend or wife/husband. Its not appropriate and I also find it very disrespectful. For those who are comfortable with it… more power to you but personally, I find it wrong. That is a bar for singles and singles only. But its only an opinion.

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  19. mellow yellow on Jul 03, 2009

    Having one of these parties does NOT mean that the man does not love his wife. I know several men that cheat on their wives yet love them. (Meryl Streep has a great movie with Renee Zellwegger about this). They do love them, they just dont respect them. There is a difference.

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  20. commoncents on Jul 03, 2009

    If a man truly loves his bride to be, he is already committed to her and wouldn’t want to be looking or fooling around the night before his wedding.
    If he has a view that he is giving up something to marry you then he is not mature enough or ready for marriage. Marriage is a conscious choice we make, which says I love you, and I want to spend every night, for the rest of my life with you.
    The idea of having a celebration for the couple is what is appropriate. He is not one of the guys anymore, He is now becoming one with his bride and should be viewed as a couple from now on. When you get married you really need to put your spouse first in your life. If you can be swayed by the boys or girls for that matter the night before your big day. what makes you think you will be able to tell the buddies no the day after that or the next week when they all want to go out for drinks… It’s a bunch of bull… Same goes for the bride.
    Put up with this now & you will be playing second fiddle for the rest of your life or for the rest of this marriage.

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  21. filthy_crumb on Jul 03, 2009

    you obviosuly haven’t seen the YouTube videos of women at their bachelorette parties going down on the male strippers.

    Stop confining your disgust to one sex. Both are equally stupid when it comes to pre-wedding parties.

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  22. lonewolf on Jul 03, 2009

    Star, Bless you, even though I am a man,I am a christian first.That stuff is really out of line ! In my way of thinking true love is also being true to the one you love ! From dating through marrige and then all eternity !

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  23. Rachel D on Jul 03, 2009

    Because they sold their right mind on ebay.

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  24. Lis on Jul 03, 2009

    Marriage is not just about love and being faithful. Those are only a few of the key ingredients of a good marriage.

    And a man having whores at a bachelor party does not mean he doesn’t truly love his future wife. If you think about it, a lot of people believe that marriage is mostly about commitment.

    If that were true, then the divorce rate would probably be much, much higher because the husband would be suffocating in the relationship because he will want to have some space for himself but how can he possibly do that if he commits himself to his wife all the time?

    A man’s love and commitment for his future wife can’t be just judged based on the presence of whores in his bachelor party. In most cases, it’s his friends who are the ones treating him out and I suppose it’s their way of having fun with the bachelor before he opens a new chapter in his life….

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  25. iam1funnychick on Jul 03, 2009

    To the people who say this is their last "HURRAH" before making a commitment: The commitment was made when he proposed and she accepted.

    How utterly disgusting to disrespect a wife/soon-to-be wife.

    I don’t understand it – I really don’t.

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  26. anoldmick on Jul 03, 2009

    I’ve attended over a hundred bachelor parties, and have yet to see one that hired a stripper or a prostitute to come "perform" at the shindig. I think that happens very rarely…

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