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How much money do you give your cousin as a wedding gift?

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My husband and I are trying to decide how much money to give my cousin as a wedding gift? Money is kinda tight right now and we have 3 kids. 2 of the kids will be coming with us to the wedding. So it will be 4 of us. I have heard that you have to give them at least enough to cover your meal?

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  1. Isadora on Feb 14, 2011

    ALWAYS GIVE WHAT YOU "CAN GIVE", IF YOU AND YOUR COUSIN REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER, MONEY DOESN´T HAVE TO BE A PRECISE AMOUNT… OR DO YOU THINK YOUR COUSIN WILL LOVE YOU MORE IF YOU CAN GIVE HER MORE MONEY???? DON´T THINK SO!

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  2. lusciouslibran_luv on Feb 14, 2011

    $1000000

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  3. forgetVegas on Feb 14, 2011

    that is not true, you give as much as you want and are able to give…i am sure you want to do more, but reality is you can’t…

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  4. carrie bradshaw lol on Feb 14, 2011

    I would suggest around $150

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  5. black death on Feb 14, 2011

    Give them what you can

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  6. moth137cash45 on Feb 14, 2011

    i would give them $50

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  7. sundayschild63 on Feb 14, 2011

    20 to 25 dollars.

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  8. starfighters sidekick!!! on Feb 14, 2011

    Maybe 100 or 200 dollars.

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  9. Sara S on Feb 14, 2011

    50 bucks.If they don’t understand you have kids,then that’s on them.

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  10. smile on Feb 14, 2011

    10000000$

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  11. mrzpn4hmstr on Feb 14, 2011

    $35

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  12. mark.scorpio on Feb 14, 2011

    as much as you fell

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  13. Fire Halo on Feb 14, 2011

    $30 will be fine, get a gift for 30 that looks like a 100 dollar gift…problem solved

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  14. imy_laichikang_1993 on Feb 14, 2011

    well, i would give him about a thousand bucks..

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  15. nicegirl on Feb 14, 2011

    within what I can afford

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  16. mobchillin on Feb 14, 2011

    I think 40 dollars is good.

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  17. meow on Feb 14, 2011

    I am not sure what kind of wedding your cousin is having, but enough to cover the meal is enough, but you do realize traditionally that is not part of the wedding gift.

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  18. Jim K on Feb 14, 2011

    Depends how close you are, $50 – $100 should be sufficient.

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  19. lz_bascom on Feb 14, 2011

    I agree with the answer $20-25.

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  20. GLBinMA401 on Feb 14, 2011

    The very minimum is $50 per person.

    Even if money is tight, give it. Remember that these people will come to events for your kids. There is nothing worse than when somebody doesn’t cover. And a little tip, now a days, most brides keep a log of who gives what and it is used when gift giving time comes up.

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  21. curious???? on Feb 14, 2011

    True, it is courtesy to give enough for your meal at a reception. For two adults and two children you should give anywhere from $100-$300.

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  22. MAVFROG on Feb 14, 2011

    That is true. It would be honorable to at least cover the cost of your family being there at the wedding. I guess a lot depends on how close you are to your cousin. Never see her… would warrant less than a close relationship with her.

    What about buying her something? Then she wouldn’t know exactly how much you spent on her?? Of course, she did register for the items…but doubt she will add everything up in her head when she is opening presents after the honeymoon.

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  23. MBLMRchic on Feb 14, 2011

    Give them money in a gift card. Like Sears or somewhere they love to shop. Whatever you can spend. That will be more thoughtful and looks better than plain cash. Think about it $50.00 or $50 dollar gift certificate.

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  24. buckwheat on Feb 14, 2011

    you give what you can afford , so at least 25 dollars

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  25. lion61_mx on Feb 14, 2011

    Double the cost of your meal and help them with the wedding issues in order to let them enjoy more than organize, personal care is more valuable than money

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  26. curiositycat on Feb 14, 2011

    Why not give them something meaningful, but reasonable to make or find? I have made photo albums in the past-the kind that are fancy with the lace and all. It doesn’t take a lot of material and they are relatively easy to make, especially nice if you fill them with photos that mean a lot to both of you, or if you put their wedding invitation on the front. Or, if you have time, and you know someone who knits or crochets, and you know the colors of their home, have them make a throw for the living room or bedroom, buy the yarn and take the person who made the throw or blanket to lunch (or if they have kids, offer to babysit). There are all kinds of things you can do that don’t cost a lot, but show that you took the time to care about the person. If I was getting married and my cousin gave me something, it would mean more to me to have something she made or had put thought into besides money. Money is always nice, but of course, it does depend on how close you are to your cousin. If you can afford it, maybe a $25 card to his/her favorite restaurant, with a card signed by your whole family, the kids too? Just some ideas….

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  27. boredgal on Feb 14, 2011

    I am glad you are getting at least a couple realistic answers on here. Good grief! Are you very close with your cousin? If you are real close I would go with $25-$50..depending what you can afford. If it is a more distant cousin and you aren’t close…go with $10-$25. I know it may sound cheap but I am faced with this all the time…weddings and graduations…and I just can’t afford to fork over $50 every time!! What I do sometimes is pick a gift off their registry that is lower priced and then put a small amount of cash in the card also.

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  28. witchyxanthya on Feb 14, 2011

    As a couple, $75-$100 seems common. I usually give $50 and put together a gift. It would depend on other things too. If it’s a cash bar or an open bar…

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  29. romangal2581 on Feb 14, 2011

    When my cousin got married a few years ago. My family and I gave them 150.00. There is five people in my family, and we were on a budget, but we figured they were both young kids starting out they would appreciate any money they got. You can even do 100.00 dollars and it will still be ok. Remember they have a list of things you can get them. So dont sweat it if you give them any amount of money, after all its the thought that counts.

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  30. papaimanfan on Feb 14, 2011

    Well in your case I think you should deserve a free meal along with your family and also should demand the travelling expanses from your cousin.

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  31. Alice N on Feb 14, 2011

    How much do yuo have to spend for this ocasion or more if is somebody important for you and for your family or is someone who need some money to start his family life.

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  32. jshepard17 on Feb 14, 2011

    I’d give them $50. Plus many times gifts of money are a wedding are annoymous. At our wedding we had pretty glass bowls on the center of each table and people left money in pretty colored envelopes that we provided if they wanted. Our most common gift was $25 and $50. $25 or $50 helps a lot for a newly married couple. We appreciated every gift that we received.

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  33. praitul on Feb 14, 2011

    Why give money. You should give them a gift, and generally the cost of the gift is to cover the cost of the meal. But also be aware that if your finances can’t handle that burden, then you should buy a gift that you can afford, and give them a card with something very nice written in it. If they are understanding to you situation, they will accept the gift and the card and it will have a great meaning along with the fact that you attended. If they won’t accept this, just send them a card, and tell that that you wish them the best of luck, and many years of happiness, and then tell them that you are not able to attend the wedding.

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  34. meandher47229 on Feb 14, 2011

    If your money is tight, hold off on the money, and spend it on your kids, There is no rules of what you can/can’t give or how much you have you give, give what you can afford

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  35. sam l on Feb 14, 2011

    Whatever u can afford.
    Why not get her a really good present rather then give her money. She wont know how much it costs and at least you didn’t go empty handed.
    I hate when we all feel we have to shell out all the time for everything.
    We are not walking banks!

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  36. livingsoul on Feb 14, 2011

    What to give out depend on your purse, on the relationship between you and the spirit of giving in you.

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  37. sweat mamma bear on Feb 14, 2011

    any between 25!-50

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  38. shennie on Feb 14, 2011

    give what you feel you can. i would say around 50$ would be fine

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