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Which ring goes on first? The engagement ring or the wedding band?

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I have heard that the band goes on before the engagement because you take the engagement ring off during the wedding but I think the engagement ring should be on first because you get engaged first. Which one is it? Or does it really matter?

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  1. steelypen on Jan 02, 2011

    Wedding band is first, closer to your heart, blah blah.

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  2. Mary Smith on Jan 02, 2011

    The wedding band

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  3. jasminenlady07 on Jan 02, 2011

    engagement

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  4. drumrb0y on Jan 02, 2011

    The wedding band always goes on first because it is more important than the engagement ring after the marriage ceremony.

    The engagement ring is an accessory to the wedding band after that; some people will have them welded together by a jeweler.

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  5. no white flag on Jan 02, 2011

    Steelypen is right, blah blah..

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  6. Nicole M on Jan 02, 2011

    I think after you get married the band goes on first. I have the ring/band combo and they fit together and the band goes first. If this helps at all it feels better when the band goes first.

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  7. idontwannabefound2nite on Jan 02, 2011

    Wedding band goes closest to your heart…..Engagement ring goes closest to the wallet….So they say. Seems to make more sense that the first ring you get would be the first on the finger, but it’s not so.

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  8. cybersst on Jan 02, 2011

    The woman wears the wedding ring below the engagement ring, thus making it closer to the heart. Another practice holds that the woman should wear the wedding ring above the engagement ring, thus sealing the atmosphere of the engagement into the marriage. Still others prefer that the wedding ring should be worn alone. Further, modern ring sets in the United States are often marketed as a three-piece set, including the man’s wedding band, the woman’s engagement ring, and a slender band that is mounted to the engagement ring before the wedding, converting it into a single, permanent wedding ring.

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  9. imababe_84 on Jan 02, 2011

    Wedding band first. There is a vein in your finger that connects to your heart they say. So your band goes on first to be closer to your heart :) It’s sweet. I too was confused and thought it should be the other way around. Actually, most christians put their engagement ring on theiro ther hand during the ceremony and then switch it back to the left. But, its your life and your rings. DO whatever you want with them! Congrats on getting married.

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  10. Racquel W on Jan 02, 2011

    The engagement ring is usually taken during/before the wedding. On the wedding day you get the wedding band and then you put the engagement ring on top of that.

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  11. hopeless on Jan 02, 2011

    engagement ring

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  12. Beloved on Jan 02, 2011

    I agree with everyone with putting the wedding band on first.

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  13. ladibuggdanni2007 on Jan 02, 2011

    of course the engagement ring your wedding ring should go on last at your wedding and the engagement ring should be put up for your memories to cherish if you and your hubby last a long while!

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  14. openpsychy on Jan 02, 2011

    It does not matter. Technically after marriage engagement ring has no meaning.

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  15. lola.licious on Jan 02, 2011

    No, you have to get engaged BEFORE you have a wedding band. THe engagement ring is for your engagement, only women get one and wear it on the left side until the bands are exchanged. The wedding band is for both bride and grooms left ring finger. And the engagement ring either attaches to the band or switches to the right ring finger.
    Trust me…

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  16. ChemGeek on Jan 02, 2011

    wedding band is supposed to be kept closer to the heart so it goes on first

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  17. elaeblue on Jan 02, 2011

    The wedding band goes on first to symbolize it being closest to your heart.

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  18. Cinderella on Jan 02, 2011

    Wedding band and then engagement ring.

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  19. Sarah on Jan 02, 2011

    Wedding band goes on first.

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  20. girliegirl on Jan 02, 2011

    It is supposed to be wedding band first, then engagement ring. The wedding band is supposed to be closer to your heart. Yes, you were engaged first, engagement is a promise to get married, after marriage the promise is fulfilled and the wedding band takes the place of the engagement ring. But in all honesty, you can wear them however you want. They’re your rings. Just get used to people commenting to you about it.

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  21. bre on Jan 02, 2011

    The wedding ring goes on first. The wedding band is to be worn closer to the heart. Normally on a wedding day the lady puts the engagement ring on her right hand. After they have been pronounced husband and wife she then puts the engagement ring on top of the wedding band.

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  22. glitter3317 on Jan 02, 2011

    You don’t typically wear you engagement ring during the wedding and you wear the wedding band first so it is closer to your heart and then the engagement ring goes on after that. Hope that helps.

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  23. localblue10866 on Jan 02, 2011

    whatever …just be happy yur wearing his ring …

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  24. Daisie W on Jan 02, 2011

    the wedding band first

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  25. sweet-cookie on Jan 02, 2011

    I don’t suppose it really matters !
    Traditionally ,you wear your wedding ring first .

    your engagement ring, is usually taken off while you work (housework) as rough handling can loosen the stones ,

    The wedding ring is what you can wear permanently.

    But really, if you want to wear your engagement ring first , nobody is going to have a seizure about it !!!

    Congratulations and Every Happiness

    >^,,^<

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  26. PT&L on Jan 02, 2011

    The band goes on first… it is to be "closest to your heart" and that is why it goes on first. I agree, seems the engagement ring should go first! But the band goes first.. then the engagement ring.

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  27. SH on Jan 02, 2011

    The wedding band should be closest to your heart,therefore you put the wedding band on first even though you get engaged first. At your wedding you are not wearing your engagement ring the only thing placed on your finger is your wedding band.

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  28. Sam on Jan 02, 2011

    When you walk to the altar, your engagement ring should be on your RIGHT ring finger instead of your left. He places the band on your left, and you try to inconspicuously place the engagement ring back on the left afterwards. The idea behind this is that the band is on first because it is your wedding ring and should therefore be closer to your heart.

    But, honestly, you should go with what you’re comfortable with. If you think it makes more sense for the engagement ring to go on first, then go with that–you’re the one who has to wear it, after all!

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  29. mel on Jan 02, 2011

    I put my wedding band on first and then my engagement ring. This is purely a practical thing because the engagement ring has a big rock sticking out of it so is easier to grasp to take off. It can be harder to get the rings off when the flat, hard to grasp wedding band is on the outside. My sister wears her engagement ring first because she has tiny fingers and is paranoid so is convinced that it is less likely to fall off if the wedding band is on the outside to protect it.

    I wouldn’t worry about tradition or anything but just with what you’re physically comfortable with.

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  30. imarebel on Jan 02, 2011

    Wedding band goes first…it’s closer to your heart…I put my engagement ring on my other hand and just switched it after my hubby put my band on….

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  31. maslyn_jl on Jan 02, 2011

    The wedding band goes on first because it is closest to your heart. I didn’t take my engagement ring off until my husband put my wedding band on my finger and he was the one that took it off and put it back on.

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  32. nanny on Jan 02, 2011

    Once you are married, the wedding band goes on first, and then you put the engagement ring on – to protect the wedding band. At the ceremony, though, either don’t wear your engagement ring or move it to the other hand, so your finger will be bare to put the wedding band on.

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  33. bubb1e_gir1 on Jan 02, 2011

    The wedding band goes on first because it is closest to your heart. I’ve also heard it explained that the engagement was preparation for your marriage and protection of your relationship so you wear the engagement ring on top of the wedding band as a symbol of that protection.

    Honestly it is personal taste. There really is no right or wrong way to do it. I rarely wear my engagement ring anymore. It has a diamond setting on it that is kind of sharp. I kept accidently scratching things with it and getting it caught on stuff. So most of the time I only wear my wedding band. I only put my engagement ring on when we are going someplace special.

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  34. cristinamendez02 on Jan 02, 2011

    the wedding ring sits closer to your heart. so this one goes first and the band.. it is not a huge deal but the wedding ring is closer b/c you actually sealed the deal!

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  35. luckyduck2006 on Jan 02, 2011

    i put my engagement ring on first then wedding band

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  36. Sherrie B on Jan 02, 2011

    The Wedding Band is worn first with the Engagement Ring in front. The Wedding Band symbolizes Never Ending Love, a beginning with no end: Eternity….as the 1st Ring on your finger, it is also closest to your heart. The Engagement Ring is a "Gift of Love, a Promise, but it is the Wedding Band that "Binds".

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