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Wording of wedding shower invitations for moneytree?

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I know that a lot of people dont agree with this but my fiance and i have lived together for four years and have everything we need for household items. We are asking the guests to come, not necessarily bring a gift… but if they choose to, a monatary gift would be best. How can i put that in the invitation? I know some may feel its rude but this is what we want. Thanks for the help!
We are not throwing it ourselves. My maid of honor asked for help. Thanks for the help and please no negativity. Only help.

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  1. briek24 on Dec 28, 2010

    there really aren’t a lot of options because you can’t ask people to give you money at a shower. if you haven’t registered anywhere, they might get the hint and give cash. but the point of the shower is to get the bride gifts. are you sure there absolutely is nothing you want? you could do a small registry so people can get you gifts for the shower, and then cash at the wedding.

    you can also do a gift card shower where people just give gift cards to anywhere. or a "around the clock" gift card shower. (people are assigned times of day and their gift reflects that time) morning people could get you a starbucks gift card or bath & body works gift card. evening people could get your restaurant gift cards or movie cards. people could also get gift cards to macys, crate and barrel, target or wherever they want.

    i really think you are stuck though, because you can’t put on the invite "money only please." you could also just tell the people throwing the shower that if guests ask where you’re registered they can tell guests you haven’t regsitered and they think you would just prefer cash….

    good luck

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  2. ○•○•Cassie•○•○ on Dec 28, 2010

    Please no boxed gifts.
    Don’t expect people not to be offended though, a shower is to "shower the couple with gifts". If you don’t want any gifts you have no business having a shower.

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  3. oy vey on Dec 28, 2010

    Since you know it’s rude and don’t care, just state your cover charge.

    Seriously, if you *have everything you need* then don’t have a shower.

    BTW-are you throwing your own shower? If so, then double points on the rudeness scale!

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  4. truefirstedition on Dec 28, 2010

    Put "no gifts, please" on the invitation, and call it an engagement party rather than a shower. There is no way to ask for money in this situation without being tacky. If you don’t care about being tacky, then it doesn’t really matter what you write.

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  5. princessbrat262002 on Dec 28, 2010

    What if you just put
    "Established Household" at the bottom.
    I’m with you on the we have what we need thing. What we really need is for people to stop giving us things we’re supposed to need (hope many changes of linens do we need really?) so we’re trying to think of a way to ask for nothing with out sounding rude.
    my fiance found this website, supposedly its like a registry but for money instead. http://www.mercantilebk.com/personal/bc/dreambuilder-choice.php
    hope this helps

    I should add, our wedding is a destination wedding so we think its rude to expect people bring a gift as well as pay to go there, so that’s why we’re not asking for anything. (or registering anywhere)

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  6. Blossom S on Dec 28, 2010

    You’re throwing yourself a shower? Wow. And baldly asking people to cough up cash? Double wow.

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  7. Haley on Dec 28, 2010

    I think there is nothing wrong for wanting to have a shower but not wanting any gifts. also, there is nothing wrong w/ wanting money instead of presents. weddings are expensive and they dont pay for themselvs. HOWEVER, be VERY carful of how you word the invitations. I would not "request" money. maybe wording it similarly to how you explained it is not so bad. If people are offended, then they need not bring anyhting at all. Maybe just explaining that this shower is a small pre-wedding celebration and because you already have everything you need, household items are not necessary.

    i dont know how to word it but i think what you are requesting is perfectly acceptable, the wording just needs a little finess

    good luck!

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  8. B2B 6-27-09 on Dec 28, 2010

    do a wishing well instead of a money tree. And there are several ways toa sk on this site
    http://mag.weddingcentral.com.au/weddings/wishing_wells/index.htm

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  9. dingding on Dec 28, 2010

    No negativity? You’ve got to be kidding. You’re having a shower, which means to shower you with gifts, and you’re asking them to bring money instead of gifts? Ha ha, good luck with that.

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  10. runningmeg82 on Dec 28, 2010

    I agree w/ briek 24. Are you sure there’s nothing you could use? Even common household items that you will eventually need anyway… A shower is to shower w/ gifts, not money, becuase a big part of the shower is to watch the bride open the gifts. I like what Briek said about the gift cards- that’s a good option. Try to find a store to register a few things at. Think something off the beaten path… Do you have a yard? You could register at a nursery or something to do some landscaping or create a garden. Just some ideas!

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  11. Bride, bridesmaid and MOH 2008! on Dec 28, 2010

    Traditionally you don’t mention gifts or money in invitations at all. You count on your attendants, especially the MOH, and your parents to spread the word about gift registry/preference.

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  12. Katherine B on Dec 28, 2010

    If you are wondering about the gift
    Here is some advice from me
    Show up at the shower
    and clip some money
    Upon the money tree.

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